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*Inspired by Supernanny, Jo Frost’s book,

"How to Get the Best from Your Children"

TOP 10 RULES

1.  Praise & rewards

Children need to be given praise, privileges and rewards as they are earned by their behavior. Children should not be rewarded or overly praised for behaviors that are expected. Spending quality time with your child is more meaningful than any tangible reward.

2.  Consistency

Consistency and follow-thru are key to good parenting. Once a rule has been made, stick with it regardless of how difficult it may be. If you back down, your children will quickly learn that they are in charge.

3.  Routine

To achieve a sense of calmness in your home, set up a basic routine. Predictability helps people feel secure.  Your routine is just an outline and should not be too rigid. Remember that certain situations call for flexibility.

4.  Boundaries

All children need boundaries to feel safe. Tell your children your expectations. If a child doesn’t know the limits, how will he/she know when he/she has crossed them?

5.  Discipline

Discipline needs to be used to teach not to punish. Privileges and consequences for one’s actions are a natural part of life. Children should be given privileges and consequences as they are earned by their behavior. As much as possible, both should be natural and logical.

6.  Warnings

Warnings give children a sense of predictability by telling them what to expect (e.g. “Ten minutes until clean-up”).  They also serve as an opportunity for a child to correct their own behavior without the need for further discipline.

7.  Explanations

“Because I said so” will not teach your children why they should do what you ask. Tell them your reasoning, but don’t allow it to turn into a debate.

8.   Restraint

Treat your children with respect regardless of the way they are treating you. Remember, you are ALWAYS modeling for your children. Children learn far more from what we do than they learn from what we say. You are the parent and therefore you need to be more mature. It is not only okay, but also good modeling for your children to see you take time to cool down before reacting. Consequences should never be administered in the heat of the moment.  

9.  Responsibility

Give your children opportunities to do small, achievable things as early as possible. Even one-year-olds enjoy helping. Their contributions will help to build their self-confidence and sense of responsibility.

10.  Relaxation

Parenting is the hardest job in the world primarily because it is a 24-hour, 7-days-a-week commitment. There are no breaks from parenting unless you create them. Find a way to create regular time-off for yourself.

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